There are a lot of good reasons to save sex until you are married.
• spiritual (your relationship with the Lord)
• mental and emotional (preserving virginity of mind and feelings until you present your body as a gift to the person you marry)
• Save sex for marriage is health. Here is a list of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) that you can become infected with by having sex outside of marriage.
If you have sex before marriage you will never know whether the relationship is based on a true "kinship" with that person or just sex.What is wrong with sex before marriage? How about: 'What is wrong with anything?' In other words, where do you get the moral code by which you live your life? There may be a whole number of different responses: 'I do what I feel is right' - my morals are entirely personal and arbitrary. Or 'society decides what is right and wrong' - laws are made and as long as I stick within them everything is correct.
For us as Christians, right and wrong are not purely up to the individual; after all, what you feel is good for you may hurt me. It is not only up to society either; lots of societies have allowed things to be 'legal' that you or I might take issue with. Right and wrong for the Christian come from a higher standard than any individual or group of humans - they come from God. The creator is also the moral lawgiver. So when I say that I believe that sex is designed to be expressed within marriage, I am not setting myself up as judge and jury and deciding to make life difficult for single people - I am trying to follow the maker's instructions.
This is not to say that ethical objections to becoming a Christian are not sincere or heartfelt. I have met many students close to becoming a Christian who have asked, 'If I become a Christian, do I have to stop sleeping with my boyfriend?' This is a real question which cuts to the heart of meaning and happiness.
In the other hand, when we detect something is pleasurable, we tend to want to have our fill of it, to be completely sated with it. So, if we like to ski, we become "avid skiers," or if we like tennis, we become "tennis addicts." If a man enjoys kissing his sweetheart, it's a given that he will sleep with her.Why is sex outside of marriage wrong? Briefly-and we'll cover this in greater detail later- it's immoral because 1) sex is a symbol of committed marital love and 2) sex may produce children who should be conceived and raised in the stable love community of marriage.
Okay, so premarital sex is wrong. What about other things? What about foreplay? Are these things sinful? Yes, any directly intended sexual arousal outside marriage is wrong.Some have argued that the question of how far you may go on a date is not a good one. They say that asking that is like asking how close you may come to the edge of a cliff without falling off. Not so. Drawing near to the edge of a cliff has no intrinsic value. Sharing affection on a date does. This is a healthy thing, one which helps bonding. As such, it should be pursued reasonably.
The immorality of using pornography should be a no-brainer for a Catholic, but today you can't make any assumptions. You have to spell everything out. So, what about pornography? Is viewing it for recreation seriously sinful? In a word, yes, because it corrupts the mind.
Pornography consists in removing real or simulated sexual acts from the intimacy of the partners, in order to display them deliberately to third parties. It offends against chastity because it perverts the conjugal act, the intimate giving of spouses to each other. It does grave injury to the dignity of its participants (actors, vendors, and the public), since each one becomes an object of base pleasure and illicit profit for others. It immerses all who are involved in the illusion of a fantasy world.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
RSS Feed (xml)
8 comments:
As a christian, pre marital sex is truly sinful as mentioned by the author.
The question here is 'what is wrong with having pre-marital sex?' This questions is very up to individual's thinking. If a person is more to religious, then this is a wrongful act and if a person is more to desire and temptation, this may not be a wrongful to them. Generally, I am not in any side, which means im neutral. Of course, the christian law stating that pre marital sex is wrong still exist but depends on individual to decide it.
Personal choice..it depends on a persons moral/religious views.My opinion is that NOT having sex before marriage is wrong!Would you buy a car without taking a test drive 1st?I think the "test drive" applies to the Man and the Woman.If you are not sexually compatible your marriage will not work.Sex is a big part of a marriage.
In my point of view, sex before marriage is actually not a wrong thing to do. Someone might want to "train" his or her skills in bed before he or she entertain each other during or after marraige. Sex is part of the dating anatomy which couple might do in order to hold their relationship. From a research done by Chin.A, sex is a very good activity or can be considered as a "active sport" which can be done anywhere, toilet, bed and kitchen. It helps reduce the risk of ashma, diabetes, and also many other serious sickness.
However, it should be done safely and should be accepted by both sides. As stated by "endlezz", its a personal choice and depends on a persons moral views. Sex is also a big part of a marriage. Parents from both sides might not agree with their son's or daughter's marriage if they found out that the guy or the gal is impotent. Besides, a person with good sex skills can increase the percentage of pregnancy and also makes his wife happy and love the family more. Therefore, whats wrong with sex before marriage....sigh~~~
The comments on this part disgusts me so. I assume, 2 out of the three commenters here have had such experience. I've had phsycology before and the comments here tells me a lot of the person who posted them. Yes, again, premarital sex is a very subjective matter and Chirstian's teaching does not encourage such irresponsible act. The key is 'self-respect' and responsibility. Endlez, I can tell that you're a care-less person whom is still lost in the world. And warheadz, premarital sex is not the only thing that is premature here. Be considerate, please.
0711
Step 1 ( Introduction )
The area of this comment falls under whether a premature sex is valid before marriage.
Step 2 ( Applying relevant knowledge )
Pre-marital sex is something that everyone is familiar with nowadays. Some may define it as a sensitive issue but some may define it in another direction. Hence a person could not be judge by how an individual is defining it. It is actually an individual thinking which will contribute to this matter. Relating this to the case by Cresta [October 22, 2007 9:09 AM]. In this case if a person is more to religious, then this is a wrongful act and if a person is more to desire and temptation, this may not be a wrongful to them. Therefore it can be ruled that individual thinking is one of the main thing which determine whether or not having pre-marital sex is wrong.
In the case of Warheads [October 22, 2007 11:48 AM], it state that “Someone might want to train his or her skills in bed before he or she entertain each other during or after marriage”. This however is the opposite case presented by Cresta. From the point of viewers, such act is called “disgraced” as it only shows a bad influence of “SEX”. It is also discrimination toward a movie produce by the ancient called “KAMASUTRA”. Such movies are made to impose the real meaning of sex which is totally opposite from what Warheads is saying. Therefore the case presented by Warhead should not be considered.
Whether or not having pre-marital sex is wrong are more detail presented in the case study by Endless v j Tan [ October 22, 2007]. In this case the defendant ( Endless ) state that “ Sex is a big part of a marriage “ while the plaintiff ( j Tan ) is against it based on the fact that he has psychology. Definition of psychology is an act that was / has been done by an individual by his thought of mind ( www.Wikipedia.com ). If he the plaintiff has psychology then he should not be commenting on the defendant comment. The plaintiff also state that the key is 'self-respect' and responsibility in pre-marital sex. If the defendant has psychology as stated then his statement is DOUBTFULL to be considered against the defendant.
Step 3 ( Applying the knowledge )
In the author opinion, pre-marital sex happens due to two parties. In this case it would be from the men and women. An individual may say he is Holy or he will only have sex when he is married. However the truth is that there is nothing that can stop a person to have sex when both are “in it”. To say that pre-marital sex is wrong, then the world would be full of sinners. But to say that pre-marital sex is not wrong then the world will be full of “rapist”. It is not meant that the author is agreeing with both conditions. The author would like to stress out that pre-marital sex does not simply come nor does it simply goes. An individual should think by them self why does this pre-marital sex exist in the first place. From the opinion of the author, pre-marital sex could not be said wrong if both parties have love towards each other and has faith or confident that their relationship will last forever. Realize that we are living in the 20 century but not in the age of stone. But a pre-marital sex can be classified as wrong doing if an individual (mostly male) are only interested in playing around. In other words it’s “PLAYBOY”. Hence the true main topic that should be ask in this post out should be the reason for pre-marital sex to happen and what is best for an individual to wonder around in his/ her mind before having a pre-marital sex instead of defining whether is it wrong or not to have pre-marital sex.
Step 4 ( Conclusion )
It appears that pre-marital sex is commonly question. No doubt that pre-marital sex is wrong before marriage but it still lies in an individual thinking on pre-marital sex.
i can see your neutral stance and good call, nicholas. its not that i'm all in to against premarital sex but i don't favor it as well! Imagine by the time I obtain 'car', you can differentiate between used and brand new and should it be USED, how do you know it has never been droved by the reckless drivers? What would happen next? Personally, for that I would have no care for the car and no respect for the car. I'll just trash it the same way it was trashed before and these cars wouldn't last long. Eventually, they would end up in some junkyards or if the cars are lucky, some rich pricks would pick 'em up and pimped them but AGAIN, this is Malaysia.
I restress again, I'm somewhat in between the yes and no for premarital sex. The only thing I'm strongly against are the lust filled ghosts and if girls think they are equal to their male counterparts, they should have some respect on their ownselves first.
By the way, nicholas, good luck in your law exam. I can see you're well up to it. In the real case, don't forget to adopt examples to relate your case to the law.
Again and again, we're males and we can have any say in our defences but girls? AGAIN! You can't hide the truth. As much as I hate to type this but we gotta face facts, this is no longer moral issue or religious issue. Its all about differentiating the right and the wrong. After all, we DO have freedom to choose.
cresta (October 22, 2007 9:09 AM)
even if you do favor premarital sex, who would want to do it with you o....??You look like somewhat muka kena lantak stereng, mouth shaped like ikan sepat. stick to 'No to pre-marital sex' la you!
Post a Comment